Sunday, 05 April 2009
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Save the rebounding for the basketball court!
I've been seeing a guy for two months who has been running hot/cold and all over the place. Acting like a boyfriend and very interested, no follow-through otherwise.
Friday night he tells me (after being out at a bar and stuffing me full of vodka) that he is not over his ex and wants to be friends. On the sidewalk in front of the bar!
I told him I could tell something was holding him back, and why did he even get involved with me and lead me on?
He told me he couldn't continue with me the way he is now and threw out the old "friends" line. Ouch! I am heartbroken but there are other problems. I am 33 he is 36, drinks like a FISH (I do not) and also hangs out all the time with our married mutual friend. Said married friend is always out drinking with Mr. Not-over-my-ex and never wears her wedding ring.
It was dysfunctional for a while and I wasn't happy and could tell I wasn't getting 100% of him but it does really hurt being dumped by someone who acted so into me and I was obviously a rebound, a replacement for something else and I am way better than that!
So in true Scarlett O'hara hot-tempered style I told him I hoped his memories of his ex-girlfriend would keep him warm at night and stormed back in to the bar.
I know it's best to run not WALK from someone with this much baggage.
I am stable, strong and beautiful and this guy hasn't had a job for over 6 months and is drinking himself into oblivion.
I just need some advice and warm thoughts so when I get teary of this I have some wake-up calls to make me not feel so bad.
Thanks!
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Comments (1)
It was cold-ish what you said to him but nonetheless amusing. So right on to that! But you do seem strongwilled, something I got off from your blog. Just hang in there and be strong and you'll obviously find some one way better than Mr. Still-Too-Much-Hung-Up-On-My-Ex.
I was with a guy like him who was not only hung up on his last 3 ex's but 2 different girls he was "in love" with at 2 different points of his life (one while he was 18, 19. The other had met and started falling in love with her at this point 4 years ago give or take). He only had one night stands with each girls respectively. He talked about them a lot and kept pictures that he took with one of those ex's as well as gifts he gave her. Left him and just recently told me it was a mistake to have held on to those girls in his past (he always talked about not holding on to his past, something he himself couldn't do and he is just shy of being 30 this fall and I'm just experiencing being in my 20s) and that I was the best thing in his life. I laughed right in front of him. Unlike him who looks for rebounds and one night stands then tries to persue after said "one night stand" girls, I'm happy and enjoying being single.
Sorry for the long comment. I guess what I'm trying to say is cheers to you and keep being strong as you are. You'll ind someone better, and mostlikely soon. You can cry once in a while yes. Just don't dwell on this too long.