Sunday, 05 April 2009

• Save the rebounding for the basketball court!

  I've been seeing a guy for two months who has been running hot/cold and all over the place. Acting like a boyfriend and very interested, no follow-through otherwise.

  Friday night he tells me (after being out at a bar and stuffing me full of vodka) that he is not over his ex and wants to be friends. On the sidewalk in front of the bar!

  I told him I could tell something was holding him back, and why did he even get involved with me and lead me on?

  He told me he couldn't continue with me the way he is now and threw out the old "friends" line. Ouch! I am heartbroken but there are other problems. I am 33 he is 36, drinks like a FISH (I do not) and also hangs out all the time with our married mutual friend. Said married friend is always out drinking with Mr. Not-over-my-ex and never wears her wedding ring.

  It was dysfunctional for a while and I wasn't happy and could tell I wasn't getting 100% of him but it does really hurt being dumped by someone who acted so into me and I was obviously a rebound, a replacement for something else and I am way better than that!

  So in true Scarlett O'hara hot-tempered style I told him I hoped his memories of his ex-girlfriend would keep him warm at night and stormed back in to the bar.

  I know it's best to run not WALK from someone with this much baggage.

  I am stable, strong and beautiful and this guy hasn't had a job for over 6 months and is drinking himself into oblivion.

  I just need some advice and warm thoughts so when I get teary of this I have some wake-up calls to make me not feel so bad.

  Thanks!

   

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